son has the potential to express all the traits we now ascribe separately to each sex, with society stressing some characteristics at the expense of others. It's quite another thing to say in effect, "You're a sensitive, intuitive man? Brother, there must be a lot of woman in you. You're an artist, a writer, a minister, a psychologist? Brother, the female is showing!" The underlines are mine because this is exactly what I've been saying word for word to the audiences that I've lectured to. It's encour- aging to hear the same thing. (For reference com- pare page 83 1st two paragraphs, of TVia No. 30 in Dec. of 1964).
He provides an interesting explanation of why TVs always say that dressing is "relaxing". He quotes a study of elementary grade children that found that the boys who were most masculine in their outlook and behaviour were also the ones who scored highest in anxiety. The author goes on to observe that if adhering to masculine patterns is stressful to a grammar school boy it is apparent that a consid- erable amount of anxiety is generated in the adult male who must constantly measure up, or conversely it is generated even more accutely by his failure to do so. No wonder escaping from this is a relief as I pointed out way back in #7.
As a measure of the degree of forward thinking by the author consider this quotation (pg.116); "The most important thing to keep in mind is that people are first of all human beings--not members of a par- ticular sex--and the initial concern of a highly complex, advanced society ought to be the stimulation of the human diversity that makes for a richness of culture. This means stimulating each individual to develop ALL aspects of his personality AND affording him the opportunity of pursuing the tastes, attitudes, and occupational preferences most congenial to his particular person". Isn't this what we FPs have been demanding all along? Well the book is full of such insightful, stimulating, and I may say, satis- fying to a TV, quotations.
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